DAY 6 Return day after half a year

 

DAY 6: Return day after half a year

 

In advance: Have a roll of wallpaper and a pen or pencil ready, and crayons or felt-tip pens or make a wise gnome (see photos below at the end of this blog)

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Inner sources of strength

 

The children come back to repeat, as it were, and we ask them if they can still remember what we discussed the previous times ..............

For example, do they still use the worry doll ............................, the instructions ...................,

Do they still have (or new) worries or wishes ....................

 

Do they need more tears from the tear jar ........................

 

or the warmth and light of the golden sun ........................

 

And how are they doing with their bear strength!? ....................

 

Search with the children for their inner sources of strength............

 

Examples of inner strength: self-esteem, self-confidence, love, courage, the ability to say what you want to say, also daring to say no, a sense of humor, a crystal dome (so that we can let all criticism slide from us), understanding, wisdom, smart, hope, not giving up, learning from this loss experience.

 

CRAFTS:

 

Draw a child on wallpaper by lying on the floor and running a pencil along it.

 

Then go through the feelings of sadness, anger, fear/anxiety, pain and happiness with them (as indicated on day 2). What feelings did you have then and what feelings do you have nów?

 

Use felt-tip pens or colored pencils to indicate where in their body those feelings are located.

 

Then ask which event belongs to that feeling.....................

 

When are you sad, angry, afraid, in pain or happy? ....................... Do you know what you can do to transform your bad feelings into better feelings? ............................... (Examples: Talking to one of your parents about this, or playing outside, meeting up with a friend, walking, cycling, buying something for yourself, playing a game, or playing music).

 

Forgiveness

We ask the children if they can forgive those who have caused them grief, made them afraid or angry in the situations indicated .............................. (who do you think of then? …………) They can also ask the person in their thoughts if they want to forgive him/her if they themsèlves have done something that has made the others angry, afraid or sad .....................

 

Next you can ask them if they can also forgive themselves for having a hard time for a while (all of them), because of the situation that has arisen. (For example, if they have a stomach ache, that they say sorry to their stomach, because their body is their best friend) ...........................

 

Give them the opportunity to do this now............

 

Empowering children:

 

Bear power: The children were all given a bear when we met them at home. Have you gained more bear power in the past year? (For example: Did the bear help you fall asleep in your own bed?) ................... Ask the children if they still have the teddy bear at home .................... Do you also have other cuddly toys that give you softness and comfort when you are sad. That you can talk to? ...............................

 

The children can use this animal as a symbol of strength, bear power! Everyone has bear power, but does not always think about the fact that they own that power.

 

They can also think of another strong anima: elephant, lion, leopard, hippo, or a soft animal (kitty, monkey, dolphin, unicorn, etc.) for comfort.

 

Grounding exercise:

 

Do you still remember? From a worry tree becoming a life tree? .................. Shall we try again to be a tree, with roots deep in the ground, so that we can't blow over when there's a storm in your life ......................

 

You are a tree and shoot roots from your right foot ................... and then from your left foot.............. deep into the ground, whereby the roots attach themselves to a stone ......................

Then you also let roots grow from your tailbone into the earth .................

You are then well grounded, rooted and stand firmly with both your feet on the ground.

Try it again at home at your leisure.

 

This exercise is also done in martial arts such as judo, so that you don't fall over so quickly when someone gives you a push.

 

Impart inner strength

What do you still find difficult? ……………………………. Let's write that down ……..

 

Let them say it out loud (together) in a certain situation that is difficult for the children, that they are dreading:

 

I càn do it .... !

I wànt to do it .... !

I dó it .... !

 

* Write the names of mom and dad in elegant letters on two sheets of paper.

Think of a word that fits mom and dad under each letter of their names and write it down. You can also draw or color something to it.

 

* Make a wise wizzard, or color it (see example below).

 

 

 

* Write a letter or a nice card to your father / mother / brother / sister.

This is the farewell of day 6.

 

We say goodbye to each other. Blow out the candles together. And wish each other much success, love, strength, wisdom for the rest of our lives.

 

And we thank each other for having walked our life path together for a while.

 

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